Questions are Okay

Questions are Okay

Questions are okay. You may have to deal with a lot of emotions as you cope with physical distancing and only interact with your immediate family directly each day.

The question, “Why?” comes up a lot during tough and painful times. You’ll find others in the Bible asked this question of God in their own way too.

Job was angry. He said, “If I have sinned, what have I done to you, you who see everything we do? Why have you made me your target? Have I become a burden to you?” (Job 7:20)

Martha was upset. “Lord, if you had been here, my brother wouldn’t have died.” Her friends went even further. “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?” (John 11: 21, 37)

The disciples were frightened. “Teacher, don’t you care that we are perishing?” They went to wake Jesus up, not reassured to have him sleeping unconcerned and physically with them. (Mark 4: 38)

King David was sad. As he prayed while suffering, “O LORD, why do you cast my soul away? Why do you hide your face from me?” (Psalm 88: 14)

In each case, God didn’t give answers as much as his presence. He didn’t answer why he did or didn’t do something; he didn’t need to for our understanding is not like God’s. Even when we have answers, we still need to see God in control and give it to him. We need to trust him even at the times it seems we can’t. Faith is logical because it relies on God’s love over our circumstances or feelings.

Here are some simple ways to deal with emotions that might help your family.

  • Pray the Psalms alone and together. Be honest with God about how you feel.
  • Ask the questions and then ask yourself “why” you need an answer. What does it change or help to know?
  • Admit your feelings. Although you are working to be strong with your family, it can do more harm than good to make life too “normal.” Sharing in small measures how you feel can give permission to your loved ones to share their worries and concerns instead of hiding them to be strong for you (or to be strong like you.)
  • Consider some ways to cope with anxiety and connect with others. You can reach out to others and read the Bible to feel support for others who have been where you are now.

Questions are okay and may even get answered. Why we ask them is sometimes as good to know as the questions themselves. God loves us and even our questions can bring us closer to him.